The Boundary That Saved Our Relationship: Why Clarity Is the Beginning of Real Love

 There Was Almost No “David and Paige”

No marriage.
No business.
No Daring Deeply, as we now know it.

Because at the very beginning of our relationship… I hit a wall.

I had shown up with clarity.
I had made my intentions known.
I wanted to move forward. She didn’t — or at least not in the way I could feel.

It wasn’t manipulation. It was fear.

Her fear of love.
Her fear of being seen.
Her fear of trusting a man again.

But at the time? I didn’t know any of that.
All I knew was: I couldn’t keep waiting for her.

The Journal Entry That Changed Everything

I was flying home from a trip with friends.
Instead of numbing out or venting about her, I opened my journal and wrote for the entire flight.

Not about her...
But about me.

My worth.
My needs.
My boundary.

And when I landed, I knew what I had to do.

I FaceTimed Paige when I got hone and said:

“I love you.
I want this.
But I can’t stay in something that isn’t mutual.”

Then I read her the final line of my journal:

“So now… it’s time for me to let her go.”

Not as a threat. Not as a tactic.
As truth.

And Then…?

She was stunned.
Silent.

Then I saw her typing.
I asked, “Are you even listening?”

She looked up and said:

“I just booked a flight. I’ll see you in 12 hours.”

That moment — the moment I chose myself — was the moment she could finally choose us.

Boundaries Aren’t Walls. They’re Invitations.

This is where so many people get stuck in relationships.

• They over-function, hoping it’ll eventually be reciprocated.

• They tolerate limbo, hoping it’ll “work itself out.”

• They avoid clarity, afraid it might end things.

But you can’t build a relationship on blurred lines.

You build it on truth.
On courage.
On boundaries that serve both people, not just one.

When I finally stopped tolerating the uncertainty — when I stood in my clarity — she had something to respond to.

And she did.

The Invitation for You

If you’re in a dynamic that feels unclear...
If you’re stuck in cycles of chasing, shrinking, or waiting...
If you're playing both sides, trying to avoid loss...

Ask yourself:

• Are you leading with clarity or avoiding conflict?

• Are you expressing your truth or just trying to be chosen?

• Are you setting standards or silently resenting unmet needs?

That FaceTime call didn’t change our future because I was dramatic.
It changed our future because I was clear.

And clarity is what invites transformation.

Let this be your reminder:
Boundaries are not ultimatums. They are the foundation of clarity. And as Brene Brown so eloquently said, "Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind."

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