The Monthly Marriage Meeting That Changed Everything

Years ago, I used to lay in bed thinking:

“We’re on two completely different pages... and I don’t know how to fix it.”

There wasn’t always an explosion.
There wasn’t always a clear “problem.”
But there was constant, unspoken tension.
Stress. Misalignment. Silent drift.

And it wasn’t because we didn’t love each other.
We did — deeply.

But love alone doesn’t keep you aligned.
We didn’t have a system. We didn’t have rhythm.
So when things got hard… we’d spiral.
She’d overfunction. I’d shut down.
We’d bury our feelings under busy schedules — and drift further apart.

The Money Wound That Triggered Everything

At the time, finances were tight.
Bills due. Business uncertain. Stress through the roof.

I thought I was leading — but I wasn’t.
I was avoiding. Withdrawing. Hiding my uncertainty behind silence.

Paige would feel the gap and demand details.
I’d freeze or get defensive because I didn’t have answers.
And that loop? It became our normal.

She felt unsafe.
I felt like a failure.

Until one day, I made a different decision:

• I hired a financial coach.

• I faced the numbers.

• I got grounded and stopped pretending.

And then we started doing one thing that changed everything:

The Power of a Monthly Marriage Meeting

Every First Friday of the month, we now sit down together.

Just us.
No distractions.
No phones.
No pressure.

And we talk through the last 30 days:

• What worked

• What didn’t

• Where we grew

• Where we missed each other

• What we’re celebrating

• Where we need help

• What we want more of next month

It’s real. Honest. Grounded.
No masks. No pretending.

At first, it was brutal. Every piece of feedback felt like an attack.
But over time, we got better — and closer.

Now? It’s one of our most treasured rituals.

How We Keep It Grounded

A few things that make it work:

• I bring her favorite coffee to soften the space.

• She wears no makeup — because one (or both) of us always tears up.

• We’ve created safety in the structure. The rules are simple: Be honest, not harsh. Listen more than defend. Appreciate as much as you assess.

For the Couples Who Feel Like They’re Drifting

Let me be clear:

You don’t need more date nights to feel connected.
You need consistency.
You need a system.
You need safety.

Dissonance doesn’t fix itself with intensity or grand gestures.
It heals through rhythm. Through repeatable repair.

So start your own version. Keep it simple:

• 30 minutes.

• A few prompts.

• One real conversation.

And watch how it compounds over time.

You Can’t Manage What You Don’t Measure

If the idea of a conversation like this makes your chest tighten…
That’s not a red flag.
That’s a signal.

It means unhealed patterns are still running the show.
Patterns that say:

• “I can’t bring this up — it’ll explode.”

• “I’ll be judged if I tell the truth.”

• “It’s easier to just keep going.”

But nothing changes without truth.
And truth can only grow where safety exists.

That’s the work we do at Daring Deeply.

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